How To Improve Your Relationship With The One You Love

Improve Your Relationship

So the question is, why do 50% of relationship fail?

“No man is an island” even Adam the father of mankind needs an Eve to be of aid to him. It is a fact that we cannot live in this world alone and thus we need “somebody to lean on” according to a famous song. This is the very foundation of relationships; relationships are made so that you can have someone who can give you a glimpse of happiness and aid you at times of trouble wherein of course you are also expected to do the same thing.

Improve Your RelationshipOne of the best feelings in this world is the feeling of being in love; the feeling that someone is taking care of you, and is concern with your every move. Love is and should be the foundation of every relationships, thus if relationships “cool down” it is such a pain in the neck for anyone who is in that position; Since, love is also said to be the most powerful driving force in this world which can give you the feeling of either extreme happiness or grave sadness.

So, why do relationships fail? How does something that seems so right in the beginning is now “falling into pieces?” Technically, there are numerous reasons that might end up in either the “cool down” or “total wreckage” of a relationship, but what’s important is you will be able to recognize that something is wrong and rectify it as early as possible to be able to improve your relationship with the other person.

 How to improve relationships

There are innumerable books as well as articles, both printed and electronic, which discuses ways on how to improve your relationship with your loved ones, how to set goals in relationship so we have shortlisted them in a way that might help you best in our perception.

1. Maintain communication

Communication is very important in every relationship. The lack of communication usually ignites the biggest problems in a relationship that result to either divorce or break-up. It is best to have some sort of “sweet talk” with your partner every once in a while. Asking “how was your day?” every now and then will go a long way.

Remember the first week when you fall in love? How did it feel? How much communication did you spend for the other person. Keep doing it! In fact, Tony Robbins said at Date With Destiny event, that if you treat the other person like it’s in the beginning of the relationship, there won’t be an end.

2. Give some space

It is important that you give your partner his/her own personal space while you are staying inside a relationship. Giving your loved ones a bit of privacy will not only prove that you trust him, it will also make the other person feel less “tied” and “suffocated” since these kind of feelings can also ruin the relationship as a whole.

3. Don’t be insensitive and indifferent

Too much familiarity often destroys even the bests of relationships. Always ask if your partner is okay and be aware if there is a change in your partner’s attitude for the day and ask what happened, in this way you will not only make the other person feel better you will also make her feel loved by listening to her problems.

4. Stay by your side

Time comes in a relationship that you are asked to choose between the one you love and other factors or people. As much as possible, considering what’s best for the both of you, stay at your partner side this will make you stronger- together.

5. Be positive

Being positive can also help you look at the bright side of the problem and focus on the solution instead of what the other person did you make you unhappy. Learning to stay positive in any circumstance is a skill everyone needs to have.

All of these being said, still the best way to improve your relationship with anyone is to keep the love burning! Because no matter how eager you are in following these methodologies along with others just to improve your relationship with your partner, if love is already lost, all of these will all be useless.

7 Tips To Stay Positive When Life Gets Tough

Tips To Stay Positive

We only have one life to live, so why not make the best of it? Spending the days with negativity is no fun, right? Staying positive, even when you are surrounded by negativity, can be a challenge. With the proper mindset, however, it can be done. With a little work and self-taught techniques for living a joyful life, you will soon find that life is worth living to its fullest. Here are some advantages of staying positive throughout your days.

  • Staying positive keeps stress away. We all have stress from time to time, some more than others. Unfortunately, in this day and age, our lives can be filled with stress. From unfulfilling jobs, family obligations, health issues, unemployment, to-do lists, and keeping up with those bills, it can be hard. Keeping a positive mindset can help eliminate daily stress due to work, home, and other obligations.
  •  Positivity is good for overall health. Having a negative mindset can adversely affect your health. It can lead to high-blood pressure, muscle aches and pains, depression and anxiety, a weakened immune system, and an overall feeling of gloom.
  •  You will attract other positive people. Healthy relationships at work, with family, or in social circles can be a wonderful asset to your emotional well-being.
  • You will be happy. Your overall happiness is what will keep you on your toes and enjoy living your life. You will want to do more activities, find success in your life, and look forward to starting each day.
  •  You will increase your knowledge. Positive people tend to want to learn more about the world around them, and, as well all know, knowledge is power!

Staying positive helps self-confidence. Self-confidence is the key to taking risks, doing your best, being successful, and helping others for the greater good.

For some, living a positive lifestyle comes naturally. For others, having a positive mindset takes a little work. Here are ways in which you can learn to be more positive each day.

#1. Ignore Negative Thinking

Negative thinking does not belong in your mind. Tell it that when it tries to strike. When negative thoughts appear in your mind, say, “Nope, not today. This mind is only for positive thoughts!” Turn those negative thoughts into positive ones and try to see the bright side in everything.

#2. Sometimes, it is Difficult

Acknowledge that sometimes it is difficult to drive the negative thoughts away. When things happen in life, such as the death of a loved one, a tragic accident of someone you care for, a difficult life situation of a friend, or any other major time of sadness or disappointment, negative thoughts are going to occur. This is normal. Trying to see the positive side of these instances is also very hard to do. Take time to be sad, take time to be angry, but tell yourself that time will make it go away and it won’t last forever.

#3. Exercise

This is a no-brainer, and it is proven. There are just too many studies out there that prove that exercising is good for mental well-being. Daily exercise gives you time to reflect on situations and sort them out in your mind. It also greatly reduces stress.

#4. Spend Time with Loved Ones

Friends and family make our world go ‘round. They shed positive light on everything we live for. Taking time to get away from work or other activities and just spending quality time with our loved ones will make us live a positive life.

Tips To Stay Positive

#5. Take Time to Laugh

Laughter is really the best medicine. While spending that quality time with friends and family, have fun and just laugh. Laughing keeps you feeling great, gives you a moment of escape from any stressors, and just makes you, well, happy.

#6. Stay Away from Negative Nellies

This one really is a no-brainer, and negative nellies are everywhere. Keep away from those negative and sour-mood coworkers, acquaintances, and other people you know. You just don’t have the time or energy to deal with people that are always grumpy and try to wreck your positive flow.

#7. If you Can’t Avoid Them…

There are always going to be negative coworkers or people that you just can’t seem to avoid. If you are paired alongside a negative-minded coworker, there is really nothing you can do about it, at least for the time being. And that negative family member at the family gathering? Sometimes you just have to grin and bear it. One thing you can do is spread your positivity their way. That negative coworker? Give them a compliment. That depressing family member? Give them a much-needed hug.

Remember, it is your life. You have the choice to live it happily or miserably. Choosing happiness is definitely the way to go, and when you are living positively, your radiance will attract others and perhaps help them be happy as well. I learnt this from Tony Robbins events in UK, he said success without fulfillment in failure. You can learn more about his event in the video below:

Two Types of Education – The Important Of Self Development

the importance of self education

When talking about education, people automatically think of school, university of college. However there are actually two types of education which are formal education and self education.

Formal education is which you learn from 12 years in school and few years of college (if you choose to). There is no doubt that formal education helps better yourself in many ways. Beside learning how to write and read, you learn how to think critically and how to learn.

Education teaches you about discipline. The greatest reward of education is not from instant gratification but from sustained effort and hard work. Some people say the goal in life is not to be entertained but to be educated.

With the right education both formal education (at school) and self education, you can learn to be a better human.

Education makes you become more valuable. Why values are important? With any career you pursuit, you get paid based on the values you are willing to bring to the market place. Here’s the truth: you don’t get paid for your time but for the values you bring within that period of time.

To bring more valuables, you must constantly become a valuable person by acquiring more both soft skills and hard skills. Formal education from school is not enough to make you become a successful and extraordinary person.

American author, entrepreneur and motivational speaker Jim Rohn once said “Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.” From this saying, you can see how important self development is. So the question becomes how do you obtain self education?

This TedTalks is very interesting. The speaker talks about how to design your education:

How To Obtain Self-Education

In my opinion, self-education is a duty and personal responsibility of anyone who wants to have more success in any area of their lives.

Educating yourself can be as simple as going to Amazon and picking up an extra book on a new subject, or taking a beginner’s course on the subject that matters to you the most and be willing to learn all about it.

The following are practical ways to take charge of a self education:

#1. Attend community workshops and seminars.

You can find many community workshop and seminars about the industry you are interested in. For example if you’re into health and fitness, you can go to some fitness expo. If you are interested in personal development, go to personal development seminars such as Tony Robbins Unleash The Power Within event. Tony Robbins is one of the best motivational speakers you can learn from.

the importance of self education#2. Take  online courses.

There are many online courses just about any subject that you want to learn. Simply do a google search about the topic and you will find the ones that suit you the most.

#3. Read books at the library.

Borrowing books and read books from a local library is also a way to improve your knowledge. Usually this service is free where you can create a membership card at your local library and then you can have access to all the books that are available.

 #4. Obtain real world experience.

If your goal is to be the best salesperson in your area, why not get a sales job and learn from your job. You can even do volunteering for the companies to expand your knowledge. By reading and applying what you learn in the real world, you can accelerate your learning progress many times faster.

#5. Find a good mentor.

Everything that you want to learn, know, or master, someone out there has already achieved it. So find out who is the best at what you want to know and learn from that person.

Mentorship can be a little costly but it is worth it because it will cut your learning-curve many times over. It’s true that we learn from mistakes, but it doesn’t have to be our own mistakes. Having the right mentor can help you achieve your goal faster.

For example, if you want to be a master life coach and become excellent at personal development, you can learn from people like Tony Robbins, Darren Hardy and many other thought leaders in the personal development industry. Anthony Robbins London event attracts thousands of people every year where they can come to learn about themselves and breakthrough whatever is holding you back from getting what they want. Such events like this can make you grow a lot faster.

In the end, it is up to you to decide to grow and develop yourself. No one can force you to do so. Self-education requires self-motivation and self-discipline.

7 Quick Tips To Achieve Your Goal Faster

achieve your goal faster

Here are 7 quick tips to stop self defeating behavior and achieve your goal faster:

#1. Chop your goals down into smaller stages so you can easily manage and accomplish.
#2. Celebrate and congratulate yourself when completing each small steps.
#3. Stop doing things that harmfully defeat your objectives.
#4. When you feel like giving up, remember all the reasons why you started.
#5. Always and always believe in yourself.
#6.Trust your gut feeling.
#7. Don’t listen to what other says about why you can’t achieve your goals.

achieve your goal faster

Hope you like this 7 quick tips. Watch this video for more motivation: